Monthly Archives: August 2013


freebieI’ve signed up for a social media ‘Grow Your Tribe’ programme which is designed to get loads of people hanging on my every word by the end of September. I’ve set myself some ambitious targets for the challenge, so it’s probably just as well I’m not overwhelmed with masses of work at the moment!

So, I apologise in advance for inviting you to like things, follow things and generally click lots of buttons on social media sites. It’s that Mary Joyce. She told me to do it. But it’s all for my own good.

To get things started, I’m offering a little freebie. If you have a blog, or a GoodReads account, you can have a free PDF copy of Gorgeously Full Fat. All you need to do is:

Review the book on your blog, GoodReads and/or Amazon.

Follow this blog.

Follow me on Facebook and Twitter.

Easy huh?

If that all seems like a bit too much work, of course you can always just buy it…

Proud Mama

Red-Haired Woman LaughingWell I did it! I actually did it! I finally worked out how to use the Kindle Publishing software (after a LOT of swearing) and got my book uploaded. So it’s there. Oh. My. God. Here’s the blurb:

“Back in 1987, when Margaret Thatcher was still in charge, the Pet Shop Boys were number one, and I was just 16, I went on my very first diet. This is the story of how I got sucked into the diet trap, and how long it took me to escape its clutches.

With the help of some other diet escapees, Gorgeously Full Fat looks at how the media, fashion magazines and just wanting to fit in keep people like me trapped in diets that don’t work, and then, what it’s like dating as a thirty-something chubby girl.

There’s also some wise and rather fabulous advice from people who’ve been there, done that and got the T-shirt in more than one size on life after dieting.

Live like you love yourself!”

And here’s the link if you like the sound of it:

I can’t believe I did it. I was a bit scared about putting so much of me and my life out there, but it’s all done in a super-positive and upbeat way, even when I’m talking about being dumped, divorced or binge eating pork pies. There’s lots of stuff in there I hope that anyone who’s been on and off diets will relate to – talking about diet clubs, different types of book, the way we feel (not just me) when we go on a diet and it’s all new and exciting.

There’s a section at the end, after my disastrous diet stories and tales of dates with complete Muppets (and my beloved Moley) that features words of wisdom from people who have ditched diets, talking about how they did it and how it feels to be free. There’s also sections on people-pleasing and fat talk, two of the worst things ever if you’re trying to heal your addiction to weight loss.

There’s a section of links to books, blogs, websites and even Twitter and Pinterest pages full of inspirational images, advice and general loveliness.

So it’s not ALL about me.

It’s out there, I gave birth to my book baby. I’m an author-girl. I think I need to lie down…

Gorgeously Full Fat – the e-book!

Write-a-bookI’ve finished the e-book. I have a working title for it now, unless anyone comes up with something better. Wait for it…‘Gorgeously Full Fat – live like you love yourself”

The Gorgeously Full Fat bit was pretty obvious really. Duh,

I just want to get it out there now, so as soon as I get a chance I’ll get it onto Kindle books and ta-dah, my work will be done. If you wanted a copy of it to help come up with the name, and I promised you one, I’ll pop it over to you by email ASAP. Just let me have your email address and I’ll get that sorted.

I’m so glad it’s done. It’s turned into a book of three sections: My Dieting Story to 2008, The Dating Escapades of a Fat Girl and After the Diet, Then What?

I’ve got to be honest, I’m a bit nervous about it, it’s mostly me and my story, and putting myself out there isn’t always easy. I’m happy writing my little blog, and on the Gorgeously Full Fat Facebook page, because that’s my little group and everyone’s lovely. But what if I put the book out and people start telling me it’s rubbish? It’s my life, I put my real authentic heartfelt self into writing it and if people don’t like it…

…OK, I’ll stop that right now. I’ll let you know when it’s on Amazon and you can download it. Now I think I’m going for a lie-down.



Name that Book!

DecisionsI need your help!

I’ve written a Kindle book, and I can’t think what to call it.

It’s a mix of some of the life story posts from this blog and favourites from my past blogs, along with some extra detail. I’ve added a few more years that haven’t appeared anywhere, with some of my dating escapades as a plus size girl. Hopefully they’ll make you laugh, cringe or even sigh in recognition!

I’ve got some brilliant comments and inspirational stories from wonderful women who’ve ditched diets as well as some ideas for ways to do it yourself. There’s lots of links to other books, blogs and websites to inspire you, make you think and make you feel good.

It’s written from the heart, from bitter (and sometimes kinda hilarious) experience and years of dieting. It proves that:

(a) Diets don’t work

(b) You don’t have to be thin to be happy

(c) You don’t have to be skinny to get a date

(d) Dating is a pain in the arse no matter what size you are.

I just don’t know what to call it, so I’m asking you. Yes, that’s right, you.

If you want a chance to read the PDF version of the book before anyone else (because I know you have to read it to get the feel of it), and then think you can come up with a title, all you have to do is follow the blog, like the Gorgeously Full Fat Facebook page and leave your name in a comment here or on the page.

I’ll pick five people on Monday. I’ll need you to be able to read the book by Monday 26th August, if that’s OK?

You’ll all get a mention in the book’s credits, and if I pick your name, I’ll send you a signed copy of the book (as soon as I’ve worked out how to use CreateSpace to publish it)

I really, honestly am stuck with this. I want the title to be snappy, something that will come up in Amazon searches but that sums up the book at the same time. It’s got to be….perfect!




Optimized-MagichandI just had to share this.

On Monday, I was not a happy camper. I was really struggling, worrying about money. I was a bit worried as I’d spoken to a client who told me they were changing the way they worked so I didn’t think I’d be getting as much work from them. Having already lost SpaSeekers, this was more than a bit of a worry and I got a bit stressed.

Then I had some other news that made me worry about my other half’s job too.

I didn’t sleep well Monday night. I got up first thing on Tuesday morning, I’m talking 2 am, and started registering with more freelance work websites, even the ones that paid rubbish money. Then I decided to try a technique that worked for me before, just after SpaSeekers told me they didn’t need me any more. I got this technique from the brilliant ‘Get Rich Lucky Bitch’ by Denise Duffield Thomas.

It’s dead easy. All you have to do is make a spreadsheet of everything you have, money wise. Take it as far as Boots Advantage points, Tesco Club Card points and Costa Coffee club points. I did it; I wrote down what was in every bank account, old savings account and my purse. I counted what was on my credit limits for the accounts I have and even included my overdraft facilities.

I added in work that had been commissioned, and outstanding invoices.

Then I looked at it, and the number wasn’t too bad after all.

The next day, through bleary eyes, I took stock. By lunchtime I’d had a commission for two articles. Then another one came in for a bigger article. Someone got back to me from one of the freelance sites I’d registered with and offered me another two articles with a potential ongoing writing job. I had a message overnight last night to tell me that I’d been paid commission by Leonie Dawson through the affiliate scheme, money I hadn’t expected.

Today, I was asked to do another four articles this morning and one more this afternoon. And I had another unexpected offer of some money for helping someone out.

It’s all flying at me and I’m not complaining.

I’m using another one of her techniques as well, and I keep going onto Rightmove and eyeing up gorgeous houses, saving them to my folder and ogling them. At the moment I’m in love with a spectacular 5-bedroom house in Ipswich with the most enormous bathroom I’ve ever seen. I’m looking at it regularly, I’ve talked to Moley, and also my stepson about how when I have this big house I want, he can have his own bedroom, with a desk and room for his own stuff. I’ll have my Victorian cottage, you wait and see.

It’s not just money. I haven’t spoken much about this but my dad has been ill. Very ill. To the point where a few weeks ago he was so poorly and miserable that he had people praying for him at his church. All his friends and our family have been hoping so hard he’ll start to feel better, even though the illness is terminal. One night my mum also prayed really hard for him, she was so upset at him being so ill and distressed. After she prayed, Dad slept. And slept. He didn’t wake up for almost a full day and Mum was beside herself. When he woke up properly the next day it was like there’d been a miraculous transformation.

Since that day, he hasn’t been sleeping during the day (he had been going for a sleep 2-3 times during the day). He hasn’t been so exhausted he’s been nodding off while he’s talking. He forgot to take his walking stick with us when we went out for his birthday two weeks ago. Forgot! He managed to walk around town the other day without getting breathless and to top it all, he’s feeling so much better that he and mum are booking a holiday.

The last day he was in hospital, at the end of May, doctors didn’t expect him to live very much longer, he was upset, very very ill and weak. Coming out of hospital saw him improve but he was still ill enough to need overnight care, and we didn’t like leaving him on his own for too long in case something happened.  Even three or so weeks ago we thought he was deteriorating and so did he. Whatever you believe, something amazing happened. All those prayers, all those people hoping so hard for him, it seems to have had an effect. Call it God, The Universe, Source…I don’t care who or what it is that’s caused Dad to go from death’s door three months ago to booking a holiday, but I love it.

I can’t explain any of this…but it proves to me that there’s something in this law of attraction/prayer/positive thinking malarkey. have any of you ever experienced anything like this?

Beautiful Ideas

beautiful-magWhat do you REALLY want from a magazine?

I’m thinking long and hard about what to put in the first issue of Beautiful magazine, what’s going to catch your attention and make you feel bloody great when you read it. The thing is, circulation figures seem to point to the fact that women like to be bullied, criticised and humiliated into feeling bad enough to buy stuff to make themselves conform, so is that what women  really want to read?

That’s not what we’re about at all. So will we be the magazine that you pick up when you’re browsing, will you be tempted to download a copy and see what it’s all about, or are you already planning to support the magazine no matter what because you, like us, believe that it’s about freaking time there was a body positive, totally accepting and inclusive magazine for women, designed to entertain, inspire and make you think, without the self-flagellation?

I’m at the point where I have to start planning out the first issue and hoping we can raise enough pennies to actually make it happen, and I want to get this right, for all of us. So, what do you actually WANT to read? What sort of lifestyle, fashion and beauty do you want? How about some positive psychology, spirituality, relationships, sex, careers, home, travel, personalities and good old fashioned feminism?

It’s all going to be in there but is there anything you think we’ve missed?

It’s your chance to help shape what’s going to be the biggest magazine launch of 2014.